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Wednesday, July 16th, 2014
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Thursday, July 10th, 2014
9:25 pm - rump patriarchy and me
this is a placeholder for something longer when i am in less of a crabby state that is qualitatively different than my usual kinds of crabby states.

but simply, a sort of stumpy tag ends rump patriarchy is what i live under and around and all that, and it's good in some ways, but still hard in others because it's not the full-on deal.  it's really too bad the term itself is a cognitive kill switch, because i often find myself wanting to correct uses of "patriarchy" as "bad stuff some men do or did" online with "that's patriocentricity" or "no, that's masculinism" or even "no, that's just plain and simple misogyny, no need to shove it under that heading".

but except in the narrow realms of conservative/right wing/etc ville, where they sometimes think they are using the term correctly, it clearly has other meanings elsewhere so i often don't go there.

but my longer post is just going to be describing what even a rump patriarchy looks like.  the men know they can't just hare around doing whatever and they also like women, but there's still the idea of male and female spheres as discrete things.  and people accept hierarchy and that they may not be as high up in it as they personally wish to be, but they don't push against it either.  it's very different than the various things i have seen described as patriarchy.  it has harsh parts, but a lot of kindness for many, even those considered marginal.

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Monday, June 23rd, 2014
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Friday, June 20th, 2014
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Tuesday, June 10th, 2014
9:44 pm - finished two more book a day books
All done with the Henry James collections.  He is quite strange once you step outside of the well-known tales.

Also finished Black Mischief by Evelyn Waugh.  Talk about coal black satire, dark and greasy as Basil Seal's floppy hair.

I had been not reading as much when I had some time to for the same reasons I didn't read when I was in a more bohemian line of work.  Which is that if I read all the books on my backlist alone, not even reading everything we owned before marriage I haven't gotten to yet, I'd still be better read than many people I know and it might make some of them feel bad.  But I can't just sit around not reading hundreds of books I'd actually like to read (even "boring" things like Schopenhauer and Hegel) because some homeschool mom somewhere might feel insecure that I know the contents of the classics she's quasi-teaching out of a box.

It wears over time, the endless not-doing because someone else will feel inadequate.  I am very slowly learning to get over that hurdle because really, people are just really badly educated and there's not much I can do about it.  Even reading lots of old books and writing about them isn't going to improve my own pathetically bad education, but I will learn more and be able to discuss the books with my kids when it's time to figure out what and how to teach them less pitifully than I was taught.  And if butts are hurt, well, they can read these books whenever they want.

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Thursday, June 5th, 2014
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Thursday, May 29th, 2014
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Friday, May 16th, 2014
3:57 pm - myRa is a really bad idea
Unfortunately, I can't go into why without sputtering at the array of horrors it can bring if it moves out of pilot status.  

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Thursday, May 8th, 2014
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  • Wed, 21:03: RT @Artzicarol: MY DAUGHTER JANELLE HENDERSON IS MISSING. Last seen 4-27 SW Portland, OR. 27 yrs 5'9" slender, hazel eyes. Please RT. http:…

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Wednesday, May 7th, 2014
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Sunday, April 27th, 2014
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Monday, April 21st, 2014
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Monday, April 7th, 2014
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Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
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Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
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Saturday, March 22nd, 2014
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Tuesday, March 18th, 2014
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Monday, March 17th, 2014
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Saturday, March 15th, 2014
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Sunday, March 9th, 2014
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Saturday, March 8th, 2014
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  • Fri, 19:04: RT @soncharm: Places like Panera have figured out people will pay up 2x to tell themselves they're not the kind of people who eat at McDona…

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Sunday, March 2nd, 2014
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Sunday, February 23rd, 2014
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Saturday, February 22nd, 2014
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Friday, February 21st, 2014
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Thursday, February 20th, 2014
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Friday, February 14th, 2014
2:08 pm - book a day-- finished another book!
I finally finished The Brothers Karamazov.  It was very intense, but it kind of fizzled out at the end (which the bio notes said was not surprising, Dostoevsky died shortly after its publication).

It's hard for me to say a lot about it except that it was really, really, really Russian.  If you have ever even casually brushed into a Russian, you probably know what I mean.

It was heavy and dense and made me exhausted at the thought of reading other stuff afterwards, so I mostly didn't.

I think I'm going to move on to Henry James next and wrap up one or both of those collections.  

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